My younger brother Da’ud got married last Thursday and his walima was yesterday. Just want to take this opportunity to extend my congratulations, duas and well wishes to him and his wife Javeria on their new life, may Allah place in it much barakah and blessing.
Marriage is a partnership, it is about occasional compromise for the sake of love. It is about overlooking minor faults and defects, it is about knowing that you yourself are not perfect and that you should not expect perfection from your spouse. There are times when it just isn’t worth winning the argument, nor is it about demanding one’s rights; more often than not it is about forgoing one’s rights for the sake of love. For men it is knowing that no matter how headstrong and confident a woman may be, Allah has made them delicate creatures and there are times when their fragility is evident and all that they need is a hug and a loving kind word. Patience and forbearance is one of the keys to a successful marriage. The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said that the best amongst us are those who are good towards their women. I hope we can live up to the standard that the Prophet expects from us insha’Allah.